Monday, 29 July 2013

For the Ladies: Your 'Monthlies' in Ramadhan


For many Muslim women, getting their menses during the month of Ramadhaan causes a loss of routine and productivity when in actual fact, a woman can do lots of other types of worship besides fasting and ritual prayer. We must not let this time of the month get us down and de-motivated about worship as it is a mercy and blessing from Allah which we must accept and embrace.
The hadith of the Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam reminds us of this:
Ayesha narrates that, “We set out with the sole intention of performing Hajj and when we reached Sarif, my menses began. The Messenger of Allāh sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam came to me while I was crying and asked, 'What is the matter with you? Has your menses started?' I replied, 'Yes.' He said, 'This is something which Allāh has destined for the daughter of Adam.'” (Al-Hakim)
Listed below are some ideas on how to have a productive and fulfilling Ramadhaan routine despite having your monthlies!

1) Plan ahead.

 As always, it's important to plan ahead. Have a game plan for holding on to your worshiping routine once you get your monthlies. Keep a Ramadhaan journal where you list your ideas of what to do once you get your menses. Also list your Ramadhaan goals, duaas, changes to make, Quran reading schedule, daily schedule, good deeds idea list, cooking schedule etc. Check out my earlier post Beneficial and Productive Ramadhaan Tips!

2) Quran

Although scholars and schools of thought may differ with regards to the permissability of reciting Quran during your monthlies, many scholars do permit one to recite it particularly if you are a student of the Quran (and hopefully we all are). It is helpful to use a Quran with the English translation as we are not allowed to touch the Holy Quran (all in Arabic).

So inshallah a woman with her menses should still be able to:

  • Do her daily Quran recitation (e.g. a juz per day to achieve your goal of completing one full recitation in Ramadhaan)
  • Continue her memorisation (hifdh) of new verses and review of previously memorised chapters.
  • Read the Quran translation & tafseer  (explanation of the Quan e.g. Tafsir Ibn Kathir, please remember to try to deeply contemplate the verses!
  • Listen to the Quran (when cooking, cleaning or doing chores).

3) Thikr, Duaa, Tawbah, Istighfar and more.

A Muslim woman in her menses can still partake in:

  • Lots of Thikr (morning and evening athkaar, the athkaar after ever prayer etc) See and every household should have copies of the 'Fortress of the Muslim' duaa book.
  • Lots of duaa (personal duaa list as well as the duas before and after doing things as prescribed by the Prophet Muhammad SAW).
  • Lots of Istighfar & repentance.
  • Lot of  Salawat (sending of prayers and blessings) on the Prophet SAW.

4) Keep the salah routine:
At Salah time, sit in your prayer room and use the time for beneficial worship , remembrance and learning. You can make thikr with Khushoo (concentration), read the translation of the Quran, listen to an Islamic lecture or read an Islamic book or article.

5) Think community! 

  • During your menses is a good time to busy yourself with helping others during the time that is freed up from not having to make salah. Some suggestions are:
  • Iftar at your home or food container deliveries (so your worship schedule isn't interrupted)
  • Masjid babysitting so that mothers can pray with concentration
  • Support a convert sister with gifts, visits, encouragement, Islamic lessons etc.
  • Take part in iftar preparations at home or at iftar gatherings as you will be rewarded for assisting those fasting in breaking their fast. And how awesome is it that even though we cannot fast, we can still earn the reward of a fasting person! Easy peasy! How generous is Allah! On the authority of Zayd bin Khaalid al-Juhani, may Allaah be pleased with him, said that the Prophet, may Allaah grant him safety and peace, said: “Whoever feeds a fasting person will have a reward like that of the fasting person, without any deduction coming from the fasting persons reward.” [Collected by At-Tirmidhi and he said: "The hadeeth is sound and authentic."]
  • Teach a sister how to read Quran or how to pray (an awesome never-ending source of reward Inshallah)
6) Eid Preparations
  • Do your Eid Prep like wrapping gifts (gifts should be bought before Ramadhaan), card making, baking etc.
  • It is a good time to do your refreshing Eid clean so do your de-cluttering, dusting, organising and cleaning whilst listening to Quran or a beneficial lecture.

Do you have any tips to share? Please comment in the box below!

May Allah bless all our sisters with forgiveness, reward, motivation and steadfastness in this blessed month Ameen! 

For more information, tips and advice see the video and links below (and have a read of the advice from Shaykh Ubayd Al-Jaabiree).

A Woman’s Guide to Spirituality in Ramadan during Menstruation and Postnatal Bleeding

Menstruating During al-Laylatul Qadr?

Q: What are the actions that a woman who is on her menses, the actions she might perform while she is looking for lailatul qadr?

Shaykh Ubayd al-Jaabiree:

Oh my Daughter, have glad tidings and give glad tidings to the others; your sisters in Islaam the daughters of the sunnah, those that follow the sunnah.

That the woman who is in her menses she is allowed to do all things that are legislated for the men and the women that are out of their menses except for fasting and praying. Besides that, he said, you know and you should teach the other sisters in Islaam, that the woman, the Muslim woman, is allowed to stand in lailatul qadr or establish in lailatul qadr: the recitation of the quraan, and making dua supplication to Allaah for all that is good, as well as istighfaar seeking Allaah’s forgiveness, and takbeer saying Allaahu Akbar and tasbeeh saying SubhaanAllaah, and tahmeed saying Alhumdulillaah and saying also laa illaaha illAllaah and the other forms of remembrance and dhikr. The shaikh while he was handing me the mic reminded us of the statement that the Prophet (sallAllaahu `alayhi wa sallam) used to say while looking for lailatul qadr

(Dua’a read aloud in Arabic)

“Oh Allaah you are the Pardoner and the giver of asylum, so Pardon me because you love to Pardon.”

And he said that you should know that any person that is kept back, and prevented from doing what is better for them from performing righteous actions, any person who is prohibited or a matter comes between them and these righteous actions due to a legislated excuse then this person should know that if they have the right intention and they have a strong will to come closer to Allaah and to better themselves with prayers or fasting or with whatever action it might be, whoever has an excuse a legislated excuse and has that strong will and that strong intention then they should know that Allaah Writes the aj’ar or benefits or reward for them. This is as we find in the hadeeth of the Prophet (sallAllaahu `alayhi wa sallam) when he was travelling with some of the sahaba on a path to the battlefield where he said that,

” There are a people in Madeenah from your brothers, that you don’t pass any mountain, and you don’t go through any valley except that they, your brothers in Madeenah are with you in the aj’ar, in the reward and benefits, that you are gathering the good deeds that you are gathering by going out in the path of Allaah, the only thing that stopped them meaning your brothers in Madeenah the only thing that stopped them and came between them in being with you is a legislated Islaamic excuse.”

So the person should understand that very well the shaykh said.

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